Problem with POMI is they don’t leave behind the toxic culture. This morning I heard of another attempted suicide (now in hospital) because POMI parent being an absolute self righteous asshole. Doesn’t want to make the effort, but expects the children to live according to the rules, doesn’t let them express what they want, isolates them, they need to put their happy faces on.
Yes, there are bad parents everywhere, but the borg gives a ‘permit’ to a lot of atrocity and sets unrealistic expectations of women, wives, children, something I recognized in myself only after the fact when it was too late.
Problem with this situation is now the in-family is going to excuse their behavior and love bomb for what happened, pushing them to find god in all the wrong places.